Way too many dating conversations have led me to do this. How about we quit talking about dating and do more of it. So I would like to offer my guidelines. Make it a littler simpler and cut out some of the confusion.
When guys and girls interact, general intrigue forms sometimes. Either there is physical attraction, good conversation, or whatever that makes you want more. And that is where all the trouble begins. Where do you go from there? A Date!
When guys and girls interact, general intrigue forms sometimes. Either there is physical attraction, good conversation, or whatever that makes you want more. And that is where all the trouble begins. Where do you go from there? A Date!
- A date - means a guy is interested in getting to know a girl better.
- Holding handing - means the guy likes the girl.
- A kiss - means the guy and the girl are in a relationship.
- Dating - means a guy and a girl are getting to know each other better, holding hands, and kissing.
Doesn't that seem clear and easy? The guy is initiating and the girl is responding. We don't need long discussion of "WHAT ARE WE?" because actions have been defined. Of course, some hate that I am making people accountable for their actions, but it just is how things work. Some may achieve all these things in a single date, other will take 20, but intentions are known by defining the actions. So to help the guys out to know when to initiate, I will define the girl's responses.
- If she is giving of her time to interact with you, she will say yes to a date.
- If she is spending time with you, she wants you to hold her hand.
- If she is standing close to you, kiss her already!
So there you have it! As a girl, I give every guy who asks one date. I do it because I am either curious, too nice to say no, or I actually want to get to know him better.
KISS - Keep It Simple Stupid
Realize that getting hurt and rejected is part of the game. You don't want to date everyone and everyone doesn't want to date you. Then to keep everything in check, if you reach the point that you are no longer interested, break up and move on. If you are unsure about someone, go on some dates until you figure it out. If they are great except too young, too old, too short, or whatever "deal breaker" issue, leave it alone.
I think the only major thing missing now is communication. Don't be with your thoughts too much because you will do something stupid. I would say make sure both of you are on the same page. Don't ask them to write a novel, just a page! Align your actions and words.
The best part is I pretend like I have answers, but I don't. It just seems like we have made dating way too complicated and too extreme. We either have to find "the one" or no one. Really I would just like guys to ask girls out, go on dates where they get to know each other, and maybe something will happen.
KISS - Keep It Simple Stupid
Realize that getting hurt and rejected is part of the game. You don't want to date everyone and everyone doesn't want to date you. Then to keep everything in check, if you reach the point that you are no longer interested, break up and move on. If you are unsure about someone, go on some dates until you figure it out. If they are great except too young, too old, too short, or whatever "deal breaker" issue, leave it alone.
I think the only major thing missing now is communication. Don't be with your thoughts too much because you will do something stupid. I would say make sure both of you are on the same page. Don't ask them to write a novel, just a page! Align your actions and words.
The best part is I pretend like I have answers, but I don't. It just seems like we have made dating way too complicated and too extreme. We either have to find "the one" or no one. Really I would just like guys to ask girls out, go on dates where they get to know each other, and maybe something will happen.
